Who says?

I cant express myself saying it exactly as it is?

Who says I should live my life scared?

If GODb4mi...Wu u fit b?

Ragga boi.

Ragga boi.
Bad guy somebori

Wednesday, 1 October 2008

All those are born in October stand up stand up!

For starters, I'm grateful for the calls, text messages and mails.

I'm grateful for the comments, the words of advice, I'm grateful for them all.

Last year, I sat in my room, the eve of my birthday, sad. midnight I started to cry as though I was an egbere (those mythical creatures that are said to crfy once you take their mats which supposedly supply wealth to the taker of the mat or somin of the sort) I cried till my eyes were bloodshot (take note Im not a crying person usually)

it seemed everything was wrong, all my plans, you know the ones that I made when I was sixteen? well they weren't going according to book, I wasn't married, didn't have no kid, my career wasn't where I wanted it to be couldn't afford a trip on my own, couldn't as much as do half the things I had thought I could do. My friend called, the one whom in my previous post I said has relocated? well he called and told me

"Bad, you be fool! wetin dey cry you? you never marry so?

you no get pikin so? ehn you no get the kin money wey you want and so diafore?

you dey hung? you no get cloth? okay you no get your own personal motor, you dey waka?no be cab you dey enter? your padis no dey carry you? I say you be fool.
na water plenty for ya eye, you no know wetin dey do you. needless to say I believed him and stopped crying but at the back of my mind I know what was going on there.

Happy Birthday to me I thought and wept some more.

later in the day I had a real reason to cry. you see last year I spent the day in a home in my neighbourhood, I saw children not up to a year old who didn't have hands, feet, who couldnt talk, crawl let alone stand, they had done nothing to no one yet they suffered so much so so much pain...I truly was a fool. babies whose mothers had discarded them like garbage, who hadnt been given a chance...I mean call me fool again.

me wey don fork fork fork, abuse abuse abuse, tif meat for pot, seduce man, coveted my neighbors convertible, said "I swear to God" me wey don lie "Im in London when i truly was in Osapa London, na so dem dey roam phone? me wey don fight my momsie tire, me who had said it wasnt me when truly it was, Me who had worked on the sabbath, place less important things before he who is all knowing, me wey dey watch people fight add salt and pepper join "EHN! did you hear what he said? if na me I go SLAP AM!" me the sinner.

God had blessed me in short over blessed me and yet I was still sad, everybody dont call me Timaya or badder call me fool!"

even as I sit in the same spot as I was last year, with the same situations as in I trip e be like say I'm in pause mode, even as I stay here wondering and getting close to tears again as to when stuff will move for me, I kneel and sing thank you Lord, I really am blessed beyond measure, I might not have it all but I have him!

My birthday comes a day after Naapali's, in exactly 10days, I am not excited as I used to be as a child but lord knows I am grateful, no matter what I face ESPECIALLY when trouble comes my way I will praise the lord.

So Naapali...all those are born in October, Stand up, Stand up!


Naapali said...

I am standing. Let me know when you want me to sit down. Thanks for the birthday shout out.

eFJay said...

Happy Birthday Babe! I loved the bluntness and the honesty of this post. We all complain and forget to be thankful... LoL @ ur friend.
I wish you many more wonderful years ahead. x

Ef babe

Mz. Dee said...


ejo o!

Mz. Dee said...

aww sweety.. i felt this way a day after my birthday this year.. but God Dey mehn.. God Dey!

Happy bday my sweet potato!!!!

bumight said...

I'm so happy that u can look at the positive side to life, and even though things are not where you want them to be, there's still cause to be thankful.
when things resolve, you'll look back and be happy about the way it all played out.

lol @ "me wey don fork fork fork...."

Vera Ezimora said...

Happy birthday, love.

I hate comment moderation. Now I don't know how many people r ahead of me

Red Sapphire said...

Here's saying a happy bday in advance.You are right u have every reason to be thankful.Thinsg could be worse,but there aren't.You are truly blessed.What we see usually make us want to freak out,but the truth is there's aa bigger picture.

LG said...

Oooooo yeah'
i wish u happpppppy baiday
0oooooo yeah
very many many happy returns :):)


Mrs Somebody said...

Don't cry my dear.....try and count your blessings rather than mourn over your 'losses'.

ShonaVixen said...

if hadnt wanted to see the world two months earlier than scheduled I'd be an October baby too..but heey i wasnt that patient!
Yup its always good to be thankful for all that you have, for when you see some1 less fortunate than urself, you realise you take day-to-day stuff for granted.
Dont give up hope on where u want to'll get there if you have the faith and belief!
Happy Birthday to you hon xoxo

Invisible said...

Fool, mumu. Wetin? No be you say make we call you fool.
Oya make I serious.
A lot of times, we forget the blessings we enjoy and count the things we don't have. I was driving home yesterday and I flipped the radio to a christian station. The song 'Blessed Assurance' was playing . The chorus - "this is my story , this is my song" got me thinking.
Yeah, so I have accomplished somethings and some, I haven't. So some plans didn't go as I wanted them but some did. This is my story and this is my song. Millions of people can't boast of the same story and the pure fact that I was able to get on the road, go to work and be on the drive home was enough. I hear of tragic accidents everyday. I've been in a few myself and I'm here with no scratch, that is a good story.
If I say you won't think that way again, I'll be deceiving you. But when you get in that mode, remember that you can at least look forward to tomorrow and keep the hope alive.
So my dear fool, oh sorry badder (we can't call you that either sef), as long as there's life, there's hope.
Happy birthday in advance!!!

princesa said...

Do I understand where you are coming from? I really do.
There have been times, I wished I was in a far better place than I am now. As in happily married to a successful, dashing young man, had two cute kids(Boy and girl), career blooming and all.
But then again, I remember that there are people who don’t even have half of what am blessed with.

Babes as long as there is life, there is great hope that tomorrow will be better.

Where did I get the notion that you were muslim from???

N.I.M.M.O said...

Happy birthday Chica!

Shubby Doo said...

ok...10 days... your bday is on the 11th? ...naapa's would be the 10th...really

babe as you look at what is still in front of you...always look at what is behind!

Confessions of a London gal said...

Happy birthday in advance!!!
You shouldnt be sad you dont have all those things you mentioned...wanna know why? Its better to have the best of things late in life than to have bad or even average things early in life...God will give you the things you want when he knows you are ready and able to handle them!

IDK said...

such a positive post...and it's all tru talk...thnk u:P

Funms said...

Happy birthday in advance luv........ what ve u got planned???????? im standing up on my mum's behalf!

Waffarian said...

Hi, I am giving you some words that help me often. The first is taken from "The warrior of light" the book and the rest from the monthly newsletter, both by Paolo Coelho.

"The warrior of light concentrates on the small miracles of daily life. He is capable of seeing what is beautiful because he carries beauty within himself, for the world is a mirror and gives back to each man the reflection of his own face. The warrior knows his faults and limitations, but he does all he can to maintain a good humour in moments of crisis.The world is, after all, doing its best to help him,even though everything around him seems to be saying the opposite".

In the words of Jesus: Look at the wild birds. They do not sow or reap, or store their food in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more account than they? But which of you with all his worry can add a single hour to his life? Why should you worry about clothing? See how the wild flowers grow. They do not toil or spin, and yet I tell you, Solomon in all his splendor was never dressed like one of them. But if God so beautifully dresses the wild grass, which is alive today and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not so much more surely clothe you, you who have so little faith? (Matthew, 6: 26-30)

For the ancient Greeks: In one of the classic myths of the Creation, one of the gods, furious at the fact that Prometheus stole fire and in doing so gave men their independence, sends Pandora to marry her brother Epimetheus. Pandora brings along a box, which she is forbidden to open. However, just as happens to Eve in the Christian myth, her curiosity gets the better of her: she raises the lid to see what is inside, and at this moment all the troubles of the world spill out and spread all over the Earth. Only one thing remains inside: Hope, the only arm to combat the misfortune that has scattered throughout the world.

A real story: At the age of five, Glenn Cunninghan (1909-1988) suffered serious burns to the legs, and the doctors had no hopes for his recovery. They all felt that he was condemned to spend the rest of his life in a wheelchair.Glenn Cunningham paid no attention to the doctors and got out of bed the following week. “The doctors saw my legs but they did not see my heart. Now I’m going to run faster than anyone.” In 1934 he beat the 1500-meter world record with the time of 4 minutes and 6 seconds. He was paid homage in Madison Square Garden as Athlete of the Century.

In a Hassidic story (Jewish tradition): At the end of the forty days of deluge, Noah emerged from the Ark. He disembarked full of hope, lit some incense, looked around him, and all he saw was destruction and death. Noah cried out:"Lord Almighty, if you knew the future, why did you create man? Just for the pleasure of punishing him?"A triple perfume rose to the sky: the incense, the perfume of Noah’s tears, and the aroma of his actions. Then came the answer:"The prayers of a just man are always heard. Let me tell you why I did this: so that might understand your work. You and your descendants will use hope and will always be rebuilding a world that came from nothing. In that way we shall share the work and the consequences: now we are both responsible."

Happy birthday, all is not lost as long as you always have HOPE! So here's HOPING all you wish for will come true. Happy birthday dear.

Keep you head up!

exschoolnerd said...

Happy birthday in advance babes!! chei it seemed like just yesterday we celebrated ur last!!.how time flies..

Anonymous said...

10 plus one is 11.
are u sure? is it not supposed to be thirteen??

happy advances befday my dear.

bArOquE said...

thanking blogger for fucking my comment...i just tire

anyway, i'm standing for Baroque...thanks

The Invisible Man said...

very inspiring, yes we should be grateful for life, food, shelter. Love ur post, thanks

ibiluv said...

i'm on my feet!!!!!!!!!!!

abeg beg me to sit down

so when exactly is urs????

i love cakes........

babes its easy to brood but honestly-we always have a lot to be GRATEFUL for-even at the lowest points of our lives......

so this grateful.....

happy birthday in advance.......

badderchic said...

@ Naapali
you fit sit in November. lol

@ Efjay
Thanks love, Me I am very thankful o, very very.

@ Mz Dee
I blush that you call me sweet poraroe lol

@ Bumight
thank you love

@ Vera
No vex, plix help me manage it.

@ Red Sapphire
Yes o! I am over blessed Im just too stupid to see it sometimes.

@ LG

lol Evi Edna, still saw that vid on youtube, I cracked mein
Amen, I claim all ya prayers for me

@ Mrs S
Cry? me? If I cry make all of una flog me o! lol, Im counting my blessing like a mustard seed the tin just dey grow dey go

@ ShonaVixen
lol I shant give up at all! thanks again

@ Invisible
tank you, Omo a se iru fun e.
yes o! My story is sweet and will only get seeter, like fine wine it would get better with age, thanks jere

@ princesa
as long as there is life, there really is hope, tomorrow def will be better.
maybe because I told you I was fasting but Im so christian, was born catholic sef. you want me to recite angelus?

@ N.I.M.M.O

thANK you, I shall recieve that on the 12th

@ Shubby Doo

nah Im on the 12th naapas I believe is on the 11th abi Dr?

@ Confessions of a London gal thank you ma, I absorb it all.

you are welcome

@ Funms

well I plan to eat and sleep lol
stand jere as momc pikin lol

@ Waffarian
Newspaper article ni yen mein! lol

thank you I really do appreciate

@ exschoolnerd

the tin tire me o! see as I just dey turn old woman dey go. lol

@ geisha

olodo, its the 12th, you should be flogges lol

@ bArOquE
stand tall!

@The Invisible Man
you are welcome

@ ibiluv

stand well well

12th, me sef like you go buy for me? lol

I overgrateful sef. lol

Naapali said...

me: badderchic + 1

NikkiSab said...

Happy buffday gal!!! And may God bless all October people well well (I av 3 special pple in dis month n one memory). Ur honesty is to b applauded cos na nail u hit on d head kpam!
Takia luv

Beyond said...

Happy Birthday babe.....

aloted said...

happy belated birthday...

aww good to know that despite all you are thankful, it is well

Aijay said...

love this post. very heartfelt...
happy birthday in advance.. hope u have loads of fun.. u deserve it love.

Cappuccine Baby. said...

happy birthday for october dear, just dropping by, love your blog, keep up the good work :)

Shubby Doo said...

Happy birthday!

Shubby Doo said...

i actually meant happy birthday for today...sorry got here a day to early with my comment...any cake left...

Naapali said...

Happy Birthday!

bumight said...

Happy birthday madam!
hope you had fun today.

Just...Toluwa said...

happy birthday sweerie! am thankful for u too!

naijalines said...

Happy belated birthday here.
Already said happy b-day on your blog bro's blog - the babalawo.

Nice guy said...

i feel u on this one...birthdays for me have been more of solemn reflections, than celebrations....damn and its actually in a couple of days

Woomie O! said...

Happy belated birthday swit!!!

Sorry I haven't been here in a yl.

Everybody feels like this, wanting to fastforward the good things in our lives...God has a real good reason for stalling.
Look at it this way, you're alive, you're really beautiful, you can smile, you have great friends, you can really have a good laugh and there's all of us here at blogville. God has his reasons.
Don't ever forget.

Cake remain???

Naija Idol said...

Happy Belated Birthday. u just forget me anyhow. Anyways sha next month i go stand my own.

ineffable said...

sometimes, looking back helps get rid of all the trash we need to move forward with ease, happy birthday dear
it'll all come to you in the end..

Anonymous said...

I did stood up but, for whatever reason blogger chose not to acknowledge.